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Friday, November 14, 2008

How to deal with difficult people?

A positive thinker must always see the best in others. If you always see the best in others, you will be happy to work or deal with everyone. Hating people only wasting your energy and make you depressed. Practice this; smile, say hello, call the people with his/her own name, and ask how are they doing today? By doing this simple things, believe me you will happier and energetic, in addition you may get new friends.

However, in my life i have had faced many people that i think really difficult to be dealt with. They never accept others ideas, in other words we must follow them, some of them only give critics and want to spoil our plans, the worst was when they asked other people not to join or help us. Most of these people actually failed to get what they want because of their attitudes and as the result the become worst. Some of them i found just want more attention, and try to show leadership in a wrong way. I tried to see the best in these arrogant people, learn the reason why he was being so arrogant and felt very superior. once i knew the reason, I felt pity for them, but i could not just follow them.

Have you faced such people? You want to deliver your idea, but because you afraid of them you just keep it, or you got a better idea but you must follow such people ideas because they act more superior than you.What you should do to make these people to follow you and get impressed with you?

Urmm, I tell you why people become arrogant. It is the first step to understand them before you dealing with this type difficult people. What is arrogance? Arrogance is a defense mechanism used to prevent further criticism. If someone had very bad childhood and if he was hurt by others he may develop arrogance in order to prevent further criticism from hurting him, the trick usually works, because if someone criticized him he can simply devalue him and assume that he is worthless.

Arrogant behavior can be a result of feeling neglected. If someone felt that he is not getting all the attention he deserves, he may unconsciously become arrogant just to attract some of the lost attention.

Arrogant people are single minded, they either think that they are superior to others or inferior to them. This arrogant person who is intimidating you feels inferior to someone else because this is how his mind works, this arrogance may be nothing more than a way to cover inferiority he experiences when dealing with someone else.

Dealing with an arrogant person is much easier than you think. Just treat him as if he is not superior, I am not asking you to ignore him, just treat him as if he is like the other normal people and this will be enough to let him avoid you. The arrogant person is carving for attention so if you ignored him you will remind him of his old wound and this will let him forget about his superiority when dealing with you. Impressing an arrogant person is very simple, just convince him that you can do something that is of importance to him better than him and he will become impressed.

That what i always do when dealing with them, and most of the times it really works and i even can be friend with them in the end.

Actually there are many types of difficult people, I will write about them in my next article.

Hard Life Simple Mind.


Evangeline Daisy said...

Hey, nice explanation on "arrogant people".
Well, you are right, they are arrogant cox they are inferior.
These people are easy to tackle, just feed their arrogant at first,and after that surprise them with your talent or knowledge which they don't aware.
Thus, they will see you differently.
Perhaps, after that, they will flash back, "how silly or stupid I was to act arrogant in front of someone who is actually more intelligent (kind of) than me".

headed to nowhere said...

well, thanks 4 the comment. yes, it's easier than what most people think.they just don't know the right ways to deal with them. We should try to be more assertive.

The Fitness Diva said...

Great post. I actually posted on my own blog "how to deal with difficult people - The Series", but mine was just a rant! lol

I think that difficult people come in many different varieties; arrogant, ignorant, oblivious (usually because they're so self centered), stubborn and so on.
It really is hard to take the higher road sometimes.
I'm sure it's a discipline many of us find difficult. I'd rather give them what for, but as my grandma once said "never wrestle with a just end up with mud all over you, and the pig, well he's in his element and he just loves it"
Yep. I try to remember that! ;)

MiNz said...

nice post..drop by to ur blog
saw this post yeah soo true bout the arrogant people...
one more thing not to forget they are too confident in each and every way they act and say..with that confidence he/she became more arrogant of d factor being damn arrogant i guess >.<
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ty for stopby at my blog

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Bryan Karl said...

Dealing with difficult people is equally difficult. But there are a lot of types of difficult people. The easiest way to handle them probably is let them be, don't make them think you're afraid of them and just be good to them. They'll soon grow tired of themselves...

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