How To Forget Someone That You Really Love? (part III)

You were walking down the street, nothing was unusual and then suddenly she came out from a nearby shop and it happened that you fell in love with her at first sight! Huhh!! What happened?!!
The answer is simple, its all related to how your mind works. If you are single or currently not involved in a relationship, your mind will always be on a hunt for your long awaited partner, even if you think that you don't care about that now, if someone did match your criteria then you will fall in love with them. In order to forget someone that you really love you must understand the main reasons for people falling in love. i have discussed this in my previous article, read it here.

Does love comes straightly from our heart? no, it comes from our mind and when it involves mind that means we still can control it. when a person get dumped by his/her partner, terrible feeling can't be avoided. we can't forget someone that we spending years of our life time just in 3 days as i said before, but we can accept the truth and no longer feel terrible by understanding more about love and break up and change our way of thinking. If we really want then we will surely can;) In my articles i will not give same old tips that people keep telling you in order to forget someone/recover from break up such as; spending more time with your friends, stop listening to sad song, keep busy, or express your feeling by crying.. bla bla etc. i guess all of you know that and so do i, but it still take a long time for me to fully recover.

In this 3rd article i will tell you a shocking reality that most of us may not be aware of, LOVE IS LIKE DRUG, it makes people addicted to it and that's why most of us hard to recover when experiencing a break up. Do you believe me? urmm, why people keep taking drug once they tried it? it is because they do not like their normal state of feeling.. and when they got 'high or stone' they feel relief and be more happy. isn't it? Love will do the same for you. Once you in a relationship you will be happy in that relationship and when you get dumped you will feel sad, terrible, dissapointed, angry etc just like a drug addict when they dont get their doses;) however, i guess love/relationship addiction is the safest addiction.

why do i get addicted to the relation?

Getting addicted to a relationship involves getting addicted to any of the following items:

• Getting addicted to the chemical Phenylethylamine (PEA) which is the chemical generated when experiencing love and it’s the chemical responsible for the feelings of excitement you feel when you are in a relation. being down or having problems makes the PEA tastes so sweet and so you can easily get addicted to it. Doesn't it sound like drugs?;)
  
• getting addicted to the nurturing you are receiving from your partner (finding someone who cares about you, asks about you …etc)
• getting addicted to exchanging phrases like "I love you" or "i cant live without you"

It's my story and what i have understand about love but by understanding this i only need one day to accept a break up, 3days to get over her and 1 week to fully recover tho i'd been spending three years loving her. If you want to recover from break up faster too, you need not to apply all the same old tips that people told you. believe me, I've tried them and they didn't work. what you must do is read all my articles about forget someone that you love and change your perspectives of love and break up;)


p/s: If you want to forget someone, you must really really want to forget him/her. Throw or delete all the things that reminds you about her. but if you think there are still chances to work out again, you may try. Gud Luck!

Hard life Simple mind.

How To Forget Someone That You Really Love? (part II)

I'd passed my first day greatly, so here i want to share what i have understood about break up. Just by understanding this i can accept the break up..positively, no more denying, just believe the truth.The following lines will open your eyes to facts that you may not have been aware of before. After you understand them, you will discover that getting dumped may not be that bad at all.

What most people do when they are dumped is that they start to search for a logical explanation or a reason for what happened. Unfortunately this usually leads them to searching for and finding something wrong within themselves and this serioulsy damages their self-confidence. Usually, the main reason behind feeling bad after a break-up is a lack of self confidence. After all, if you were sure that you are a great person who doesn’t deserve to be dumped, you wouldn't have related rejection to a problem within yourself. Instead, you would've found another explanation for it. There are two main reasons people fall in love, and these also be the main reasons for a break up.

• Love and compensation: The person who dumped you is just a human who is governed by the rules that govern all other humans. One of the main reasons that makes this person fall in love is to compensate for some of her own weaknesses; For instance, if you loved someone who is a methodical thinker, he may dump you if you were very similar to him simply because he may want someone more spontaneous and creative to compensate for his rigid way of thinking. Thus, although you are smart and intelligent, you were still dumped because your partner needs to compensate for his weaknesses and not because you are bad. In long distance relationship, its hard to compensate each other. if she loves to meet, talking and doing things together and he no longer available. she will easily get bored because he no longer compensate her needs. So if you think that the person you fell in love with is superior then wake up and realise that all humans have unmet needs that they need to compensate for, the only difference is that it may not be that visible for some of them.
• His/Her unconscious criteria: In 'Psychology Of Falling In Love' stated that everyone has subconscious criteria for choosing people he falls in love with . This means that if someone didn’t fit these criteria, the person can never really love the other person even if he was the greatest ever. If one of these criteria was something like “she must be cute, big eyes, slim, blond etc" and you don't fit that, you might get dumped even though there's really nothing wrong with you! We all have unconscious criteria that have been set to our subconscious mind. Some of us may not realize it, but its there. If you fell in love many times before, so you can tell that the girls that you fell for have some physical similarities. however, the criterias may change as your life change but most of them will remain.

The conclusion we can make from all of this is that you could get dumped for many reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you. In a book ' how to get over someone?' the writer used this concept a lot by convincing the readers that they weren't dumped because of not being worthy or because of being unneeded. The effect was so powerful. Now, i feel very great and even feel pity for the other person who is just searching blindly for a way to compensate for his flaws instead of someone who would really be a dedicated and loving partner. Most importantly, be confident and know your own strengths. If you become confident enough, being dumped won't have any effect on you. 3days will enough for me to accept the break up and start forgetting her, in a week i will get my life back and fully recover;)

How To Forget Someone That You Really Love? (part I)

People said, "Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop."But are tears enough to chase away the pain of a break up?Most of us have been there. Some of us are there. And for sure, many of us will be there in the future. When the person you are in love with suddenly leaves you, you may think that your whole identity is shattered, and that you will never recover from the pain - but keep in mind, the sun will rise again, sooner or later.

After my first break up, i read a lot of articles about psychology of love. I understand that, its not our heart that control love but our mind. But i do not really believe in this until i experienced my second break up recently. Actually i'm still in the break up process. After my first break up, i got really disappointed, sad and painful, it drove me almost crazy. But i did not hate her, instead i decided to get her back because i believed that all the bad things that happened were my fault. That was my mistake. I managed to get her back and i believed confidently that she will never leave me again. i was wrong, tho' i did my best she still went away for that second time. It is worse than the first even i keep pretending that i'm ok with it. i tried to get her back for a couple of weeks and it was making me feel more terrible. Now, i decided to forget her! besides, there are a lot of girls waitin for me out there;)

I give my self three days to accept positively what had happened and a week to fully recover. I wrote my story above as the first step to accept this break up. Then i will go through break up recovery process.Read the process here in my previous article: Recover from break up.

In my next Article i will continue to write about this. I believe that as i continue writing about this i can help many people out there that still wasting time crying for nothing; and for my self, i really hope 3days will be enough for me;)

what was your fault?

I know how it feels when you put high hopes on someone then you get disappointed.
I know how painful it is to lose all of your hopes in one second or in single moment.
I know how can a relation be to someone before its just lost that way.

But do you know why did you get disappointed in such relationship? You got disappointed because you were confident, you got disappointed because you thought that you deserve what you were going after, you got disappointed because you were having good expectations, you thought she/he will always be there for you. You got hurt because you were very confident that all the things that your partner promised you is true. you feel stupid because you believed she/he more that your own self. what was your fault that cause you to suffer all the pains? Over Confident.

Just think of it, in case that you were one hundred percent sure that you won’t get it, would you have felt disappointed? Off course not, only the confident gets disappointed in relationships.