How To Forget Someone That You Really Love? (final)

It took me three days to get over the worst ever and a week to recover fully. In the past, it used to take me about one or two months to recover from a breakup. Nothing has changed in this period of time, I am still the same person, I do still have feelings and my attitude towards relationships is almost the same, the only thing that has changed is my knowledge about relationships.

Understanding what makes a relationship healthy and what makes it "yet another relationship" is vital to the recovery process. Just like me, you can recover in few days if you understood the relationships facts that are not known to the most.

If I was to summarize all of the methods to getting over someone in three lines I would have said “Forget about what you saw in the movies, have realistic expectations to understand the difference between needing someone and loving someone and know that there is nothing called the one or the soul mate”

There are lots of factors that interact together in such a way that they make quick recovery not possible. It all starts with an unmet need that the person needs to fulfill, maybe he is feeling lonely or missing warmth in his life, maybe his friend ignore him or maybe he misses love in his life, maybe he wants to proof to himself that he is worthy or maybe he just needs approval from his new lover. All unhealthy relationships start with such needs and then in the second step the media brainwashes people making them think that the solution to all of their problems lies in finding the so called “soul mate”.

If people have such a pattern of thinking then there is no wonder that they never recover quickly, if the soul mate is the solution to all problems and if they need him to satisfy their unmet needs but in the same time he is not there then how come will they recover??

By understanding the real need behind loving someone you may discover that you are in love with that person because of a personal that you are having and not because he is your soul mate. For example, if you found that you really needed that person because you were feeling lonely then the correct solution to getting over him is to deal with loneliness and not trying to get him back, Simply because you are not in love with him but you just need anyone to satisfy this unmet need of not feeling lonely.

I know what you are thinking of now, you are telling yourself "But no, if this was true then i could have fell in love with anyone, why him?". Of course you cant fall in love with anyone just because you are feeling lonely but instead you will fall in love with any guy who barely meets the criteria you have in your mind for your future partner (for more info click here)

Getting over someone is very simple but it just requires you to seek correct education about relationships so that you can fix your false beliefs about them. To summarize all of this, in order to recover in few days you need to change your beliefs about relationships by seeking proper education and you need to start a relationship only when you love the person and not when you have an unmet need that you want to satisfy.

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